Comments on: Interesting Conversation at Engaged Marriage

By: nfpworks

nfpworks — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:36:35 +0000

Saw it. Boy oh, boy. Good response: “To live is to love.” That’s it. Love is fruitful. At some point one has to stop rationalizing about the environment and speak about love.

By: Dustin | Engaged Marriage

Dustin | Engaged Marriage — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:24:40 +0000

OK, I couldn’t take it anymore! I just responded to Crow in response to her latest challenge against the reasoning for bringing children into this world. If you are interested it’s (for now) the latest comment on the Green Sex, Anyone? post.

By: nfpworks

nfpworks — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:58:40 +0000

Good for you. I’ll think about it, but I’ll take a break from my crow discourse for now…. In my experience the Childfree/ Overpopulation folks are the most , shall we say, passionate commenters, which tend to fire up the conversation. They also tend to be the most vitriolic and less balanced.

By: Dustin | Engaged Marriage

Dustin | Engaged Marriage — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 23:05:40 +0000

Thanks for the kind words! As you can probably tell, I tried to have an intelligent discourse with “crow” just as long as I could stand it. I finally decided to quit responding and figured she would go away. Of course, that hasn’t happened yet, and I could delete her comments, but I try to support open discourse even when I don’t agree with it. This is by far the most commented post on Engaged Marriage.

Please feel free to stop by and fire back, though!

By: nfpworks

nfpworks — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 19:36:27 +0000

Good analysis, Kat. I like your phrase “insistently obtuse.” You’re right, though; Dustin’s done a good job dealing with it overall. You’re right in the end: combox convo’s can get messy. (As we found out in the Childfree melee of ’07).

By: nfpworks

nfpworks — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 19:31:40 +0000

Yup. Kat’s got a good insight to his point of view/ motivations below.

By: Kat

Kat — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 18:38:16 +0000

Wow. Talk about flaming. There’s a certain etiquette we’ve lost on the web. Can you imagine this person in real life doing that? Definitely would not be invited to parties … perhaps that might be why (s)he’s spending so much time on the internet?

But there’s not much you can do against that, and I think Dustin took the right track. Most people reading will either (a) ignore it absolutely, (b) realize this person is being insistently obtuse, or (c) already be on crow’s side and maybe add a few flames of their own. Trying to rationalize on the internet across a comment board is like yelling at someone through a wall of jell-o. It’ll get messy no matter what you do.

By: ThatMarriedCouple

ThatMarriedCouple — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 18:12:12 +0000

I saw that, and also thought how patient Dustin must be! This actually prevented me from commenting on that post – after seeing this guy “spewing rocks” as you so aptly described, I decided it wouldn’t be worth the agony of him (as opposed to Dustin or any other reasonable person) possibly responding to me. Disappointing.